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Authors Sherrie Schneider, left, and Ellen Fein who wrote "The Rules," pictured here in September 1996.
Looking for love? There’s no app for that.
The women who wrote the seminal â€" some say retrograde â€" 1995 dating guide “The Rules†have updated their book for the 21st century, but haven’t changed the main rule for women: Play hard to get.
That’s easier said than done in the age of Twitter and Facebook, so the new-and-improved guide â€" “Not Your Mother’s Rules: The New Secrets for Dating†â€" urges women how to play hard-to-get with social media.
Never Facebook, email or text a man you want to date, according to Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider, the original “Rules†girls.
In fact, women shouldn’t take the first step to initiate any relationship â€" and that includes online dating, the duo said.
“If a man’s interested in you, he’ll contact you. Let them come to you,†said Fein.
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Once you have them, the authors said, ignore them â€" at least for a little while.
“You don’t respond to everything text or tweet in a nano-second,†said Fein. “Let some mystery grow.â€
The next step: Control your texting. An entire chapter is dedicated to how and when to do it, complete with a text-back time chart based on age.
Young women have a 30-minute minimum. Older women should wait at least four hours â€" longer if possible.
As for sexting, forget about it.
“I wouldn’t sext with someone until there’s a ring on my finger,†said Fein. “Don’t send any emails, pictures or texts you would take back if you broke up.â€
Women should never email after midnight, write on a guy’s Facebook wall, or try to friend all his friends and family.
“I know girls who go to a guy’s Facebook page and study it like it’s the Talmud,†said Fein. “That’s not going to help.â€
Above all, don’t post schlubby pictures of yourself eating pizza alone on a Saturday night, tweet crazy rants, or cyberstalk him.
gotis@nydailynews.com
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